The fog of reentry is thick. It feels similar to what happens when you come down with a really bad cold and headache, and everything sounds muffled and far away. You continue with your day and complete your tasks like you're supposed to, but everything takes two or three times as much energy and effort to focus because your surroundings seem so distant and hazy.
A few weeks ago, I was talking to Lynette, my counselor, about how difficult it is to make decisions right now. I'm back in the US, and it's time to make decisions about where to live, what jobs to accept, what jobs to pursue, possible courses to take at church, and what volunteer activities to become involved in. Not to mention friendships and how to balance socializing and traveling with rest.
Lynette validated my struggle and talked about how people returning from overseas are in a fog of reentry, and it's hard to make decisions in a fog.
I didn't completely understand what she was talking about, but now I do. This whole time I've felt not quite right, but not totally off balance. The sense of unrest was like a pebble stuck in my shoe. Annoying and continually reminding me something was wrong, but not debilitating. As I've moved to Waco and come to terms with the fact I now have an apartment - the first place I'm really supposed to feel like I belong since my home in Cambodia - I've been hit full force with the realization I'm not in Kratie anymore.
As I've wrestled with this reality, I've experienced grief all over again, and confusion and anger and depression. Somewhere along the way, I entered into a fog. A fog which not only obscures my view but which also feels like a tangible wall between me and the rest of the world, like a thick piece of privacy glass.
Today, I drove to church and sat with a friend. I returned home and ate lunch. All in a fog. Surroundings seem surreal, it was hard for me to focus during church, and 90% of my choices to be productive come as just that: choices. Choices to be intentional and take care of myself: eat, shower, get out of the house, sleep, and repeat.
Something difficult about the fog of reentry is it doesn't necessarily come with physical symptoms to alert others I'm not really okay. There's no sniffling or coughing from a cold, no stuffed up nose as a telltale sign I'm feeling subpar. Those close to me are aware of my hazy mental and emotional condition, but among the rest of the world, I float through the day, trying to order coffee through the fog, trying to read and write and maybe even manage a conversation.
What's next? Where does the road go, how long does the road stretch? I have no idea. All I can see is fog.